WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
Debbie Nelson
Today’s Scripture: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21, NIV
Theme: Before you decide how to resolve a disagreement or proceed with one option over another, ask yourself, “Does this honor God?”
SUBMIT OUT OF DEVOTION
This Scripture calls us to place others’ needs above our own. Submission is not based on merit but is an act of worship and reverence for Jesus, modeled after His example. It lays a foundation of humility, where believers consider others more important than themselves—standing in direct contrast to the world’s focus on power and self-promotion.
We submit to one another because Christ clearly taught us to do so. It is an expression of gratitude for all He has done. In today’s world, this means intentionally choosing to prioritize others over ourselves, not for recognition, but out of devotion to Him. In our marriages, families, workplaces, and church communities, this looks like mutual respect, humility, and sacrificial service, rather than insisting on our own rights.
CHOOSING UNITY OVER BEING RIGHT
In relationships, especially marriage, mutual submission is essential. Both spouses are called to prioritize each other’s well-being above their own. This requires letting go of the “It’s all about me” mindset and embracing selflessness. During disagreements, this kind of submission shows up through empathy, open communication, and a willingness to listen. Avoid the “silent treatment.” Let go of the need to win every argument. Instead, pursue understanding and prioritize reconciliation over being right.
I remember a specific disagreement I had with my husband during a particularly difficult season. He was preparing to return to work after an extended amount of time off. He had two very different opportunities. One was part-time but required frequent travel. The other was a prestigious corporate position with an impressive salary, though it meant being stuck behind a desk—something he didn’t enjoy. After both interviews, it seemed he could choose either. I assumed we were on the same page—that the corporate job made the most sense. Then he told me he had already accepted the part-time position without discussing it with me.
Needless to say, I was upset. Tension was already high, as we faced our tight financial situation, and this only made things harder. But God had a different plan—my husband ended up with neither job. That experience became a powerful lesson for both of us. Since then, we’ve committed to communicating openly about major decisions and surrendering them to God, trusting that He knows what’s best.
A STEP FURTHER
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:21, NIV). How do we apply this Scripture in the workplace or in a culture driven by ambition and competition? It begins with humility. Instead of focusing solely on personal advancement, choose to listen, support others, and act with integrity. Don’t use your position for selfish gain—use it to serve. In church communities, this means both leaders and members should serve the needs of others, as God directs, rather than pursuing personal agendas.
No matter the setting, we are called to cultivate a servant’s heart, just as Jesus did. This means not using our talents or authority for personal advantage, but making a daily, intentional choice to live selflessly. We don’t submit because others deserve it—we do it because it honors Christ.
Make It Personal: The next time you find yourself in a disagreement, pause. Ask questions. Listen carefully and keep an open mind. Don’t rush to conclusions without understanding the full picture. Then, bring it to God in prayer. Ask for wisdom and guidance. Finally, place the situation in His hands, trusting that He alone can bring about the best outcome for everyone involved.
Pray: Dear Lord, You know the dilemma I am facing. I humbly ask You to give me the knowledge and wisdom necessary for me to move forward. Help me to avoid selfish ambitions and focus on following your example. I place it all in Your hands because I trust in You to provide the answer in Your time and according to Your ways. In Jesus' Name I pray. Amen.
Read: Philippians 2:3-4; Galatians 5:13; 1 Peter 5:5; Romans 12:10
Weekly Memory Verse: “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’” Genesis 2:18, ESV